I became a sister.
Granted, I was 9 years old then & I doubted that her and I would ever be “close” because of that age difference, but I still had a baby sister–a real, live doll to help my mom take care of.
Kel-Bel has been there for me for every important event in my life–As a toddler, she came to all of my dance recitals to cheer me on. I remember her giggling with giddiness as I got dressed and dolled up for my high school prom when she was 7 years old. I remember her standing there with her American Girl Doll in hand at my High School graduation, grinning from ear to ear, already respecting academic scholars at age 9. I remember her joy on my wedding day when she was just 13, and the look on her face when she became an Aunt, & Godmother, at 15 years old.
She even slept right next to me the night my father-in-law died. My husband was not home, and I couldn’t bare to sleep alone. She was just 17. And yet she knew the right things to say to me to help me fall asleep.
A few years ago, she was asked to write an essay in school about the woman she admired the most, and she chose me. I framed that essay because it meant more to me than any card or gift I’d ever receive from her. I was going through a rough patch, one that I don’t think she really knew about or could fully grasp. How could she? She was only 17 years old, fearless, with her whole life in front of her. I was home raising 2 babies, not working out in the “real world”, sitting in sweatpants most days with my hair in a ponytail, dealing with an anxiety disorder. But she saw something else. In her words…”I admire her hard work and ambition that drives her to perform tasks and to achieve the things she most desires. I find myself in awe of her life. Her intelligence, kindness, wildness, and beauty all add to her remarkable personality.” It was at that moment that I read her words and realized that we weren’t just sisters, we were friends.
Today, Kel-Bel turns 20.
For me, the last 10 years have been life-changing, and I am so excited for her to be entering this phase of her life. In my 20’s I graduated college, got my first real job, met the man of my dreams (although I’m certain she’s already done that), got married, moved into my first home (and second, and third!), and most importantly, became a mom. It’s been a remarkable time in my life.
To quote a very wise young woman: Kel-Bel–I admire your hard work and ambition that drives you to perform tasks and to achieve the things you most desires. I find myself in awe of YOUR life. Your intelligence, kindness, wildness, and beauty all add to your remarkable personality. You are about to embark on the most amazing years of your life and I am excited to walk by you through them as your sister, and as your friend.
Happy Birthday Kel-Bel!!
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WHat a great tribute to your sister! I hope my children are so close when they get older. Happy birthday to your sis!
wow, you brought tears to my eyes. You girls are the children every mom and dad hopes to produce. You are a tribute to your mom, dad and grandparents.
That was super sweet. I wish I had a sister, but am glad that my girls have each other.
By the way, you mentionned you had an anxiety disorder ahile ago – me too. I used to get panic attacks really bad.
How awesome! That was such a great post! And perfect for a little award I have waiting for you on my blog!
Beautiful post! Gives me hope that my son will have a good relationship with his sister who is 9 years younger than him.
Chrissy – you never cease to amaze me – you are a wonderful person, sister and writer!! I am sooo loving this website – I know only great things will come to you!!! xoxoxo